05 May 2012

together

I meet my good woman for the first time in the year 2000. For each issue of the staff newsletter I edit where I work, I interview a staff member and write a profile. My manager suggests I interview this woman who speaks many Slavic languages.

She tells me she and her husband migrate from Serbia in 1994 because of the war there. At the time she is seven months pregnant, has a two year-old daughter, no English. She loves skiing but a deep sadness lies within her.

I don’t see her much after that: she works at a different site. When she comes to Ringwood for meetings I see her walk across the car park from my office window, self-contained, unassuming. Over seven years my interest grows. I hear she’s divorced and ask a friend in her team what he thinks of her. “She’s all class,” he says. I think I agree.

The end of 2007. I plan to resign from my job. I don’t want to die wondering so I summon all my courage one Thursday and ask if I can see her away from work. She says no, but rings me at my desk on Monday to say she’s changed her mind.

I’m not social, gracious, or conventional. I ask her to pick me up because I have no car at the time. She doesn’t seem to care. We watch the sunset from Mount Dandenong, then talk in a café. Two weeks later we walk the beach at Edithvale, sit on her sarong and talk. She is different, intelligent, her accent gives me goose pimples. I want to touch her but dare not.
  
She is raising two children on her own, just as I have done. She’s impressed. The first time I’m invited for tea her kids sit in the kitchen as she prepares the meal. They’re unaffected, laugh easily. I feel privileged.

I get a job in Bendigo, a bit of a surprise. I set up a quiet life there. My good woman amazes me with what she gets done each day, her focus on whatever she is doing: her work, preparing a meal, going to the gym. When it’s time for play, she focuses on me, although we live in different cities.

No other woman understands or accepts me like this one. Finally I let myself love someone, this brave, smart, funny woman I can’t keep my eyes or my hands off.

Life and human beings are fickle. But four and a half years later we are still together.

Rock on. 

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